Enhancing Relationships-"Golden Words"

This post is a forward which i got as a routine work in office...
I could not resist myself posting it in my blog...
These are golden words and one should apply in life ...

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is
broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to
suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity
may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call.
She answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She
repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to
cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB.
Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose
number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if
the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
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NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a
successful marriage. Could you please share with me our secret?" The
father-in-law
answered in a smile, "Never criticise your wife for her shortcomings or
when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her
shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than
you."

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are
afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he
would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is
the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one
finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.
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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?
A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and
requested "I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable
one." The SDU officer said, "Your requirements, please." "Oh, good
looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing
and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my
leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when
I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to
rest." The officer listened carefully and replied, "I understand you
need television."

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a
blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the
faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of
the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and
dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the
excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that
marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.
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NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,
or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer
all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage.
Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries
the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than
a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the
spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our
expectations..
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RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will
either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off
because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,
we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without
considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction
site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily!
Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way
home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.
Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She
answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he
will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad
relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.
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PERSONAL PERCEPTION
Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be
another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On
the way home,a boy commented, "Very stupid. Why neither of them ride
on the donkey?"Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on
the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and
commented, "The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride
on the donkey while the husband is on foot?" Hearing this, the wife
quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, "How
can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no
gentleman."
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey.
Then, they met a young man. He commented, "Poor donkey, how can you
hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you." Hearing
that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey
and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the
donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell
into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will
everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will
be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is
clear..
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BE PATIENT
This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of
his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old
son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck.
The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands
into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son
to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he
finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the
boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently
said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are
my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed
suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u
wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with
someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings
often can't. Too often we fail to recognise the difference between
the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is
greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the
actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Empowering Indian Women

Needless to argue that our government has come up with big step towards women'protection.Recent approval of the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Bill 2005 speaks it out.Thanks to NGO's activists that made their cronically attempts to get the approval.The Bill has been the major issue seeking approval since 2001.13th Lok Sabha succeeded to approve the Bill."Ab Bhartiya Nari Ghar main Surakshit hain...".

In India,Women issues are always seen as the way to get the attention of the crowd,it may be a movie or it may be empowering the women rights.Sensitive issue to be taken always with care.

Four years of continuous debate,activists efforts at last succeeded to empower the women rights.Though the putative Bill has been amended since 2004 now definition of domestic violence has been extended to include all kinds of abuse and also its threat — physical, sexual, verbal, emotional and economic. What is more, it covers single women in a live-in relationship and women living in joint families —sisters, mothers, widows — often at the receiving end of physical and emotional abuse. The most empowering clause, however, relates to women's
right to residence in shared households. The Bill seeks to protect the rights of women to secure a house or live in her matrimonial home or shared accommodation, whether or not she holds any title or rights. This right will be secured by a order passed by a magistrate. It also provides for
appointment of protection officers and registration of NGOs as service providers for legal and medical assistance to the abused.

Hardly we can commit practically that there would be time when man and woman are equal in India.Women rights in male dominated society are some of the initiatives to make them confident to fight against the violence and threat.The extent of domestic violence prevalent in our society is far greater than we would like to admit. Source -TOI :Statistics reveal that 45 per cent of Indian women are slapped, kicked or beaten by their husbands and 75 per cent of battered women contemplate suicide.

Indian woman is now no more pusillanimous against threats.She is more safenow under the Bill.Hoping for next women Bill in near future.It is well said that the nation is judged by the women power.So lets empower women to empowerIndia.

Glossary -where nothing relates in relation

Teacher-a person who forgets his school-college days...
Bike-reason for un necessary braking..
Window-device used to peep next door girl
Book-passing tool utilised only in exams..
Work Station-where all work stops..
Certificate-forgery to get the job
E-mail-simply for time pass
Manager-one who manages the already managed things...
Remote Control-it helps to excercise your thumb in switching channels
College-place which needs a tough competition to get in to waste time in proper ways..
Movie-a chain of scenes which need to be covered up...
Internet-here you can find better option of job
Meetings-time waste, where real management comes simply to conclude with next meeting dates
Degree-alias of the name
Open Space-where people break their mind

Unrevealed Fear of Sannata

Kokila Ben would never thought of...Jay,Goldie and Gauri also would never thought of that their partners work would take up peace of mind of a boy called "Sannata".

Sannata was like a hero of his group.He loved to make friends and one could always find him talking to new persons.He was inherited the quality of not being silent in contrast to his name.One night he was thinking all about his friends.He was very much nervous, sad and feeling poignant that though he had number of friends but still he was alone.

Next morning, he turned to be little peevish and he was almost on the verge of being ostracized by his group.All the world around him became obsolete and then he started to search for a friend.A friend to whom he could be always with him.A friend who could be cynosure,a friend who could be panecea and always ready to help.His activities in searching for a friend had become a obsession whether it was day or night, Sannata was always found to unveil his zeal for friend.

Sannata belonged to a small town "RilZilla" where only sun light could reach..it was like days to think to go just nearby-city.RilZilla people were well updated to the happenings in the world.Surprisingly there was a daily newspaper which made this small town updated to the world..Sannata had left the reading of the newspaper, once he had started for searching..

It was sunny day,Sannata was going for school. Sannata was about to reach his school but before he got down from his recently assembled cycle,a piece of newspaper became a cynosure of his eyes..Sannata had found at least a glimpse of his friend..He got the assurance to meet his friend after 5 months..Sannta was waiting for these 5 months to turn over and the day came when he was about to meet.Sannata was very much happy being with new friend.Sannata had lot of
faith in his new friend..so he christened him by name "Vishwaas".

Sannata and Vishwaas started living together for compelete 24 hours a day...Their friendship were burgeoning in leaps and bounds as both were aggressive listeners..If one used to speak other used to listen only..People could see the changes ingrained in Sannata being with Viswaas..but after 6 months Vishwaas came to his reality..and the reality soon became
the sleepless nights for Sannata.Vishwaas was loosing his temper and if Sannata kept on talking or listening to him..he was turned to be very hot, not even tolerable for a second.Sannata sooner realised that Viswaas was taking lot of his moneyand power to make himself cool and happy to be with him.Sannata started feeling pain in his ears,feeing irritated with Vishwaas and realised that he was on the way to hell.Moreover, he started avoiding him.but the story of his friendship turned up to a morbid fear of him.Sannata's life had become hell now as after every 15 min or a gap of 100th fraction of Thou minutes,he is receiving his friend with a long horrorway of sound.Sannata now to his extreme wanted to kill Viswaas when he came up with four digits with text message "Duplicate"...

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